What do you mean how many people are in a relationship?
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Your relationship has changed, things aren’t like they used to be.
You don’t kiss and cuddle anymore, gone are the phone calls, the messages, the gifts, the knowing looks, the romance.
You sit at opposite ends of the couch, watching tv or on your phones, you seem to have lost interest, you get your wires crossed, in fact you don’t even recognise one another any more.
Sound familiar?
Reality no longer mirrors expectation and would you like to know why?
Maths! You simply didn’t have all the numbers.
You thought there were two people in your relationship when there were four.
Let us explain.
We haven’t accepted ourselves so don’t think anyone else will.
So, in comes ‘The Best Version’ of us to convince someone that we’re good enough to be with. We pull out all the stops, put in all this effort until they finally say yes and agree to be with us.
Problem is though is that it’s tiring being the best version of ourselves because that’s not who we are most of the time. It’s an illusion, a partial lie. It’s who we wish we could be.
After a while we start to get comfortable and feel accepted, we stop doing the things we used to, stop saying the things we used to, stop trying as hard. We forget that we were playing this other character and the ‘real us’ comes to the surface.
Now here’s the bigger problem, you weren’t the only one playing a role, so was the other person. They were doing the exact same as you for the same reasons.
Two characters not realising that they were both playing a role to convince the other person that that’s who they were because they were afraid that the real person behind the character would be rejected. Talk about complicated!
So when the real versions enter the relationship they’re unrecognisable to each other and can’t live up to the ‘best versions’ which has been portrayed. Disappointment, condemnation, criticism and judgement come into play and what started so well had now turned sour.
What we’d love to do is reintroduce you, the real versions of you to one another and to get reacquainted.
If you’re currently single we’ll help you to save time, money and effort by taking the real you into your next relationship.
There’s only room for two in a healthy, harmonious, successful relationship.
Much love,
Naomi & Martin